20 causes of marital delay among the youth and how to overcome them.

 20 causes of marital delay among the youth and how to overcome them.

Introduction.

One of the salient causes of marital delay among the youth is idleness. Idleness leads to many problems in life and one such problem is delayed or no marriage. It is important that a young man spends most of his time working hard so as to get married when he has enough money and can afford it, not just for himself alone but also for his future wife/wives too because marriage involves two people not just one person.

Idleness.

Idleness

This is one of the causes of marital delay among the youth. Some youths are employed but they fail to show up for their work on time because it does not matter to them. They think that if they work two or three hours late, it will not harm their employer at all. This attitude results in loss of job and becoming a burden to their family members as well.

Lust of the eyes and flesh.

Lust of the eyes and flesh. This is the sexual desire that arises from seeing or imagining something that is not allowed to be seen by others, such as nudity or sex. You can overcome this by avoiding watching pornography; instead, try using other helpful methods such as fasting from food or drink for a period of time to strengthen your willpower by going without something you are used to having regularly.

Overcome lust: Lust in itself is not a sin but it becomes a sin when it leads us into adultery and other sins like fornication which we will discuss later on under “Sexual Immorality”

Vanity.

If you are in a relationship with someone who is constantly seeking approval from others and spends more time fixing her or his appearance than spending quality time with you, then your partner has a problem with vanity.

This kind of person will not be satisfied until they get the attention they think they deserve. This need for recognition is one of the biggest reasons why couples delay marriage because it is difficult to remain faithful to one person when there are so many distractions out there vying for your attention.

If your partner feels like they have something to prove, then it may be time for them to rethink their priorities before moving forward in life as husband and wife.

Material desires.

Material desires are often the cause of marital delay among the youth. This is because they think they have to own a house and have a car before getting married. They think that marriage will not be successful if they don't have these things.

One way to overcome material desires is for couples to set up their finances in such a way that there will be no financial problems after marriage.

Another way is for couples to plan early enough so that they can wait and save money for things like houses or cars (after all, it's better not to get married with debts).

Lack of confidence in the institution of marriage.

At the heart of it, lack of confidence in marriage stems from the belief that marriage is not worth it. This may be due to people’s perception that marriages are more likely to fail than succeed, or just because they don’t like the idea of being tied down.

This reason is also related to how we view relationships as a whole. In our current culture, we see dating as a fun and exciting part of life—something that adds spice and variety to our lives, but isn't necessarily something we want for ourselves long term. Couples who date for long periods before getting married tend to be happier with their marriages than those who got hitched right away. And this can help explain why delaying marriage might lead some couples into cohabiting instead: cohabiting offers an alternative way of experiencing adult romance before committing oneself fully by getting married or moving in together (which often comes after marrying).

Unwise family interference.

Unwise family interference.

The young bride should never allow her parents or other family members to interfere in the marriage process. It is not uncommon for some parents to come up with a list of their preferred suitors for their daughter’s hand in marriage, but the choice must be left to the girl and her husband-to-be.

Waiting for Mr or Miss Perfect.

Waiting for Mr or Miss Perfect.

Sometimes, couples wait for the ideal partner before deciding to get married. This can cause them to delay their marriage for a long time as they continue to wait for that perfect person who may never come along.

The couple needs to ask themselves if they want to marry someone who is not a perfect match but has some good qualities and loves them unconditionally? Or will they prefer getting old together with their first choice of partner who unfortunately doesn’t feel the same way about them?

In conclusion, parents should encourage their children not only in completing their education but also in finding happiness at home by getting married in order that children can have good role models and set good examples as adults later down the line.

Low self-esteem.

Low self-esteem is another one of the reasons why some married couples delay having children. Some people don't feel that they have what it takes to be good parents and may worry about their ability to provide for a family.

There is no doubt that being a parent can be challenging, but with time and practice, you will learn how to cope with these challenges effectively as well as enjoy the rewards of being a parent.

Waiting for God to drop him/her on your laps.

The first thing that you should do is to stop waiting for God to drop him/her on your laps. It is important for every couple to understand that there are no perfect relationships and no perfect partners. Even if you've been in a relationship for some time, don't expect it to be a bed of roses. You need to work out your differences together as husband and wife, because at the end of the day, only the two of you can determine how successful your marriage will be!

Financial insecurity.

Financial insecurity.

One of the side effects of being financially secure is that you can afford to delay marriage. In fact, a study found that lower income couples are more likely to marry young than their higher-income counterparts.

 Financial security gives couples the ability to focus on other priorities in life besides buying a house and having kids right away, including travel, education and career advancement. However, there's also a downside: when money is scarce or even nonexistent in your household, it can be difficult for couples to make plans for their future together without worrying about paying bills first (or maybe only).

Fear of divorce amongst divorcees and single parents.

Some of the youth postpone marriage because they are afraid to go through a divorce, especially amongst divorcees and single parents.

This can be overcome by building strong relationships with their partners on trust, care and love to avoid this fear from happening.

Too much focus on education and career.

When you're young and starting out in life, it can be tempting to put your career before everything else. After all, you want to get a good job that pays well so that you can afford a comfortable lifestyle and support any children you have in the future. Unfortunately, this can create problems later on if both partners are focused solely on their careers. 

If one partner is constantly studying and working while their partner is looking after the home and family, then there may come a time when each wants something different from life and it's difficult for them to agree on anything.

Promiscuity and sexual promiscuity especially among ladies in their desire to catch up with others who are already married. or simply dating the wrong person out of ego, pride or lack of proper counsel. Love is a choice, not a feeling which comes and goes as the wind blows.'

The first cause of marital delay among the youth is promiscuity and sexual promiscuity especially among ladies in their desire to catch up with others who are already married. or simply dating the wrong person out of ego, pride or lack of proper counsel.

Love is a choice, not a feeling which comes and goes as the wind blows.'

There could be many other causes of this seemingly intractable problem, however getting rid of all these self-centred attitudes, thinking less about yourself, being responsible and making marriage a priority will do you a lot of good.

There could be many other causes of this seemingly intractable problem, however getting rid of all these self-centred attitudes, thinking less about yourself and making marriage a priority will do you a lot of good.

If you are looking for marriage but your desired partner is still single despite being old enough to get married, now that the reasons have been discussed, it’s time to focus on what we can do about it.

1. Fear of the future and outcome of marriage

In this generation, more than others, people are afraid of the future. They want to live a comfortable life and are not willing to take risks in order to achieve it. The fear of the unknown is what causes some youth to delay marriage.

But there's no need for you to worry about your future or having children because God is with us all the time - He will give us exactly what we need at any given time in our lives! Your faith should be stronger than anything else that can cause you fear!

As long as you have a strong relationship with God and His Church, there won't be anything that can separate you from His love (Romans 8:38-39).

2. Waiting for the right time to get married.

You're waiting for the right time to get married.

You want to find your perfect spouse and have a big, fancy wedding with all the frills.

You want to live in a big house, drive fancy cars and take expensive vacations before getting married.

3. Waiting for the right spouse to marry.

Waiting for the right spouse to marry

It is true that we should not marry the first person who comes our way, but at the same time, it is not advisable to wait until our parents have a heart attack before we get married. 

Many young people are waiting on God to give them their perfect spouse because they think they will not find anyone better than who he sends them. This is a wrong attitude especially if you are already 30 years old and still single! 

There are many reasons why people delay marriage: fear of making mistakes, fear of divorce, lack of faith in God’s leading etc.. 

These things can be overcome with prayer and fasting as well as asking advice from mature Christians who may have been through similar situations themselves.

4. Financial instability, fear of how to manage a family and responsibilities.

There are many financial problems that can arise when you have a family, like the need to pay for rent, food, school fees etc. 

You may also be afraid of taking on these responsibilities because of lack of experience.

5. Low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence, low sense of responsibility and procrastination.

It is important to know that these are some of the causes of marital delay among the youth. Such factors affect their ability to make decisions regarding marriage. 

You should keep in mind that it is not necessary for a person to be highly educated or rich before he/she can get married but rather, it is about having a healthy mind such that you can make wise decisions as well as take good care of your spouse when you get married.

6. Education, career goals and dreams.

Young people are always focused on their education. They don't have time to marry because they have to study a lot.

 Also, they want to make sure that they get a good job so that they can support their family in the future. Some also like traveling or working abroad before getting married. 

But this is all understandable because if you want to build a good future, then you need money and good qualifications for that!

7. Absence of parental support and encouragement.

In the earlier years of marriage, you will notice that your parents are more interested in what you do than they were before. 

They may even try to discourage your spouse from devoting all his/her time to you; they may give you excuses like “it is not good for a wife to be too dependent on her husband” or something similar.

 This is because parents tend to think that it is better for their children if they have careers and live an independent life just as they did when they were young.

Parents should understand that there are different ways one can raise a family without losing sight of their personal goals. 

There are some couples who manage both marriage and career successfully without neglecting either one (or both). 

Therefore, being married shouldn't be seen as a hindrance but rather an opportunity for greater personal growth as well as achieving one's dreams together with your spouse!

8. Poor relationship with parents.

Poor relationship with parents can also be a cause of marital delay. If your parents are not very supportive or they are always interfering with your marriage, then it may be difficult for you to get married. 

You should try to have a good relationship with your parents so that the next time you decide to get married, they will be happy for you and support your decision fully.

Another reason why bad relationships with parents can cause problems is because young people often depend on their parents financially during this period in their lives when they don’t have much income themselves yet. 

This makes it difficult for them to save up enough money for a wedding as well as getting used to living together as husband and wife after being raised separately by their respective families all these years!

9. Unhappy relationship with parents.

This can be because of some unresolved issues going on in your childhood, which you are now taking out on your spouse and family. 

Or maybe you’re not happy with the way your parents treat you or they don’t appreciate the person you have become. 

For instance, if your dad still treats you like a child, despite being grown up now, it might make it difficult for you to depend on him for advice regarding marriage and love life decisions. 

This may lead to delaying marriage or even getting into an unhappy relationship just so that he has someone near him all day long.

10. Over-dependence on their parents for everything.

This is a situation where the youth are dependent on their parents to make all decisions. They do not want to take any risk and want everything to be perfect. 

This can be a cause of delay in marriage because it delays taking responsibility for one’s own decisions and actions, which are critical factors in preparing oneself for marriage.

To overcome this, youths should learn how to make decisions independently and face challenges that come their way without depending on anyone else except God!

11. Poor knowledge about marriage problems, its solutions and sexual intercourse in marriage (lack of pre-marital counseling) etc

Poor knowledge about marriage problems, its solutions and sexual intercourse in marriage (lack of pre-marital counseling) etc.

This is a common reason for marital delay among the youth. Many young couples do not have the right ideas about marriage and how to handle it. They lack proper knowledge about how to solve conflicts and also how to make love with their spouse in a healthy way. For example, many young boys do not know when to stop making love because they want more pleasure from their wives; so they continue until their bodies become tired or weak from over-exercise which then causes them physical pain and infertility issues later on in life when they wish to have children with their wives

Another reason why this happens is due to lack of pre-marital counseling at home by parents or guardians who failed at providing such an important service during younger ages of life where these things matter most!

12. Bad experience during courtship or engagement periods (betrayals from the partners).

A bad experience during courtship or engagement periods (betrayals from the partners).

When you are in love, you expect your partner to be loyal and trustworthy. But this doesn’t always happen as it is not easy for people to keep away from temptation. If you have been betrayed by your partner, this may affect your relationship negatively as it is hard for one person to trust another who has betrayed their trust before.

13. Preference for material things over being ready to start a family life in marriage e.g waiting till they have a good job or own a car etc before marriage or getting married at an old age when they can afford it all because they think it is too early in their youth to start a family life or be responsible enough to manage one since most youth nowadays see marriage as a sign of maturity (and yes in some ways it is true).

You may think that you're ready to start a family life in marriage, but you aren't. You may have a great job, or own a car and house. But is this enough? No! You need to make sure that your wife will be happy with you for the rest of her life before you even consider getting married.

If she is not doing what she needs to do as your wife, then it's time for her to go out of your life and let someone else come into it who will be able to provide what she needs. If she doesn't want anything from anyone else but only wants things from me (the man), then I'm not going anywhere near her again until she changes her ways!

Conclusion.

I hope this article has been informative and helpful in understanding the root cause of the problem and how it can be eradicated. Marriage is a beautiful institution that should be cherished by every man and woman. It is a sacred union between two people who have chosen each other out of love, respect and desire to spend their lives together as one flesh. It should not be looked at as a means of salvation or worldly success but rather an opportunity for both parties involved to express themselves fully in service towards each other in order to grow together spiritually and emotionally through their struggles